If we journey through life with a downbeat, pessimistic attitude, it will be far more difficult to find happiness and gratification. Without a sense of optimism, we will find ourselves in a permanent state of worry and dissatisfaction. With this in mind, parents should aim to raise an optimistic child using various techniques to sway their attitude, so that they are equipped to deal with any challenges thrown their way with a smile on their face. Without a doubt, this is easier said than done, but I have teamed up with an independent school in New York to offer you some guidance.
Be sure to bear in mind that your child will learn how to behave by observing you and other influential people in their life. In other words, if you are quite a pessimistic person, your child will likely adopt the same attitude. Likewise, if you approach life with positivity, optimism will come more naturally with them. With that said, try to shield your child from any stress that you might be dealing with. Instead, let them see you handling your issues in a healthy and constructive way. For example, perhaps you’re nervous about an upcoming job interview or important meeting at work. Try to act confident around your child, because your attitude will resonate with them.
Praise your child when necessary and avoid being hard on them when things go wrong. For instance, if they fail a test, let them know that you are proud of them for trying their best and that they can learn from their mistakes and do better next time. If you are harsh about their poor grade, they will feel even more anxious next time they have a test. The idea is to use positive and upbeat language around them, such as “I’m going to be great in this interview as I’ve done lots of preparation” or “Well done for trying your best and working hard for the test, I am proud of you”.
Talk to your child about how life is a rollercoaster; there will be good days and bad days, but we shouldn’t let setbacks stop us from moving forward in a positive direction. Try to help your child see the good in life by sharing things they’re grateful for at dinnertime, or things they’re looking forward to.
*This is a collaborative post.